The Communication MASTER Hack!
In communication, orientation is everything!
You could learn all the details of powerful techniques, yet still fail at truly finding rapport. Conversely, with the right orientation, you can screw up a lot of the fine details but still have a good result!
Human beings are masters at tracking how other humans feel about us. It's what allowed our species to thrive and adapt down through many millennia of living together in tribal bands. Because of this, how we show up within to any interaction is the primary determinant of how it's going to work out!
In the video above, I propose taking up the 'Compassionate Connected' orientation as a way to start on the path of effective compassionate communication.
We don't have to start with others, we can start with self compassion.
This is especially important for conflict or other situations where boundaries might be necessary. In these situations we need to start with the orientation of compassion for ourselves! In the second half of the video I lead you through a practice to cultivate calm and self-compassion. As you become skilled at this, the orientation of gratitude, presence, and curiosity naturally begins to bubble over - first into our easiest and most enjoyable relationships, but soon you may find that you're entering into conflict and difficult relationships from an orientation of presence, empathy, and compassion!
